[It's just what he does. Make sure everyone is alright.]
First, before I say anything else you weren't wrong to ask questions. The more we think about all angles the more we can tighten up the plan. Unfortunately, everyone is a lot more stressed than either of us could guess.
Had I realized it I'd have just answered your questions, myself. Sorry about that.
one of the (many) problems with karkat is that he has a very crash way of speaking that makes it very easy for him to start fights with people even when he doesn't mean to. and in this case, he definitely did not mean to, but it still happened regardless of his intentions. and he gets that. even during the fight, he could see what the misunderstanding was, but when someone is yelling at him he is the type to yell back. ]
Dude, it's fine. I don't think anyone realized it would turn into a spectacular shrieking contest. [ himself included. ] I'm just going to warn you now, since Terezi and I are the only trolls here, that there are certain things about the place we're from that makes talking about a shitty situation easier for us. It doesn't mean that we're purposely trying to be assholes or upset everyone else, but for us it's not that weird to say something like what I did. Which, I realize, doesn't make it any less shitty.
[ but he also knows everyone else was missing that added context. ]
It makes what happened a lot clearer to me. [Now he gets where the breakdown happened. Heād been worried it was slightly more than that judging by the way it all went proverbially sailing off the cliff too fast for him to head off.]
Iāll explain the human side of this which youāve likely already guessed. From what I can tell from observing, your peopleās way of dealing with stress hit dead on against someone feeling responsible and worried. I think if you explain what was misunderstood that will help you going forward.
I assume the rest was just tempers running high. Iāll keep a sharper eye on things from now on.
[From his tone, he isnāt judging anyone. Itās just a fact.]
Might I make a few suggestions on how to address your questions next time?
[ admittedly, a part of it did get personal, mostly the very last thing dirk said before he suddenly decided to leave. but karkat doesn't think shiro might enjoy having that story told to him, so he avoids that subject. ]
At this point I am willing to do whatever to make sure I don't get kicked off the plan. So, shoot, tell me how to be less of an asshat in these trying times.
You wonāt get kicked off the plan. Either of you.
[That needs said before anything else.]
Itās less about attitude and more about navigating around stressed out people. Your starting approach wasnāt bad. But instead of responding back to their remarks point out what you are concerned will happen. Toss out a suggestion if you have one. People are a bit stuck in their own heads right now. Even those of us trained to deal with these kinds of situations.
The trick is to reign yourself in and focus on what you want achieved. Itās not easy. But Iāll help as I can.
I will be completely upfront and say that reigning myself in is not one of my high points. It is pretty low on the list of things I am successful at accomplishing on any given day.
[ there's a thoughtful hum though.
But usually if people tell me to back off I will... try... to. If it doesn't involve screaming.
As long as you try thatās all Iāll ask you to do. Noted on the screaming. I donāt think weāll have another incident but itās good to know. Anything else that will help?
[ he considers. normally, the only two people he could typically count on to always step in when he needs it are jade and terezi. jade is, obviously, occupied at the moment and when it comes to handling humans, terezi is as much of an expert as karkat is. so. ]
Seriously don't be afraid to tell me to fuck off whenever I step on a line, just without including any jabs to being a complete failure.
I prefer being a Paladin. Anyway, we're on a fifteen-minute break. I thought everyone could do with a longer time to cool off and get themselves back together.
[ there is a pause after the dirk suggestion, because honestly karkat would prefer to prolong that conversation as long as possible. he already doesn't talk to dirk that often to begin with. ]
If youāre both fine with that. Keep in mind you donāt have to have that talk or delay it until weāre out of this situation. It might even be better that way.
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Yeah. Sure.
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First, before I say anything else you weren't wrong to ask questions. The more we think about all angles the more we can tighten up the plan. Unfortunately, everyone is a lot more stressed than either of us could guess.
Had I realized it I'd have just answered your questions, myself. Sorry about that.
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one of the (many) problems with karkat is that he has a very crash way of speaking that makes it very easy for him to start fights with people even when he doesn't mean to. and in this case, he definitely did not mean to, but it still happened regardless of his intentions. and he gets that. even during the fight, he could see what the misunderstanding was, but when someone is yelling at him he is the type to yell back. ]
Dude, it's fine. I don't think anyone realized it would turn into a spectacular shrieking contest. [ himself included. ] I'm just going to warn you now, since Terezi and I are the only trolls here, that there are certain things about the place we're from that makes talking about a shitty situation easier for us. It doesn't mean that we're purposely trying to be assholes or upset everyone else, but for us it's not that weird to say something like what I did. Which, I realize, doesn't make it any less shitty.
[ but he also knows everyone else was missing that added context. ]
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Iāll explain the human side of this which youāve likely already guessed. From what I can tell from observing, your peopleās way of dealing with stress hit dead on against someone feeling responsible and worried. I think if you explain what was misunderstood that will help you going forward.
I assume the rest was just tempers running high. Iāll keep a sharper eye on things from now on.
[From his tone, he isnāt judging anyone. Itās just a fact.]
Might I make a few suggestions on how to address your questions next time?
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At this point I am willing to do whatever to make sure I don't get kicked off the plan. So, shoot, tell me how to be less of an asshat in these trying times.
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[That needs said before anything else.]
Itās less about attitude and more about navigating around stressed out people. Your starting approach wasnāt bad. But instead of responding back to their remarks point out what you are concerned will happen. Toss out a suggestion if you have one. People are a bit stuck in their own heads right now. Even those of us trained to deal with these kinds of situations.
The trick is to reign yourself in and focus on what you want achieved. Itās not easy. But Iāll help as I can.
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[ there's a thoughtful hum though.
But usually if people tell me to back off I will... try... to. If it doesn't involve screaming.
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Seriously don't be afraid to tell me to fuck off whenever I step on a line, just without including any jabs to being a complete failure.
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But no one is a complete failure. No matter what they've done or what mistakes they've made.
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Have you ever considered a job as a motivational speaker?
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I prefer being a Paladin. Anyway, we're on a fifteen-minute break. I thought everyone could do with a longer time to cool off and get themselves back together.
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[ he knows he probably upset more people than just dirk. ]
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[Heāll be there and make sure things turn out alright.]
If you feel like talking to Dirk first before you talk to the group as a whole. Iād do it before the meeting resumes.
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Can there be witnesses?
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How you deal with it is solely up to you.
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