Dave. I'm going to freak out regardless? I just... don't like the idea that I might be making you miserable without knowing that I am? I don't expect you to give me the gory details on every shitty feeling you have, but I'd just like to be aware that those shitty feelings exist in general?

[ he would prefer to be told that he is fucking up? like... true, he will probably freak out at the news. but also the longer things get dragged out, the worst his response will be. ]